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Just do it… but how?

July 22, 2011

Now that we had finally decided the “one day” had arrived, that is, that the time to stop talking about adoption and start doing it was here, the next question to answer was “How?” We knew there were three basic roads to orphan care by adoption: domestic adoption, foster-to-adopt and international adoption. A discussion of these three roads surprisingly quickly led us to a unified decision: international. Please, please don’t get us wrong. We are aware of the thousands of children who live in the United States who do not have families. Our hearts break for them. We have friends who are currently pursuing domestic adoption and friends who currently fostering-to-adopt. We are immensely thankful for these precious friends, pray for them every day, and pray for others to have their hearts moved to care for local orphans in the same way. It’s just that as we prayed about our adoption and discussed the different roads, our hearts were drawn to the children overseas who live in orphanages and do not have access to a functional (though granted, flawed) foster system, free public education, state-provided medical care, etc. We just felt God was calling us to adopt from overseas.

International adoption, truthfully, scared us. Many have heard stories about children who are kidnapped or trafficked to meet a “demand” for adopted children. We were absolutely not interested in being involved in anything like this and were therefore afraid to step in the world of international adoption. However, we prayed and prayed that God would help us find an agency that saw adoption as a ministry rather than a business, one who we could be confident in knowing that everything was being handled ethically. An internet search eventually led us to Generations Adoptions in Waco, Texas.  Truthfully, we found Generations before I got pregnant with Jude. I was reading a blog that mentioned the National Christian Adoption Fellowship. I had googled it just out of curiosity and had found Generations listed on its website. I called the international social worker and spoke with her, just gathering information about their international programs which at the time were very new. A very short time later, I found out I was pregnant with Jude and forgot about it. So, when the time came for us to pursue adoption, I went to their website again and downloaded all the information about their programs. At the time, they had two international programs: Mexico and Uganda. After reading about the programs, we decided the Uganda program would be a better fit for us and put in an application.

This bring us to a funny thing we have noticed about our adoption story. We have found that our answer to the question, “Why Uganda?” is not really what people expect. We wish we had a cool story about how we went on a mission trip to Uganda and since have always felt the call to adopt from there, or that when we were praying about where to adopt from God drew a map of Uganda in the sky, or something equally as interesting or impressive. That’s just not the case. Our desire to make sure our involvement in international adoption is ethical and above-board led us to the conviction that we needed to find an agency we could trust. The search for an agency led us to Generations, and an evaluation of Generations available international programs led us to Uganda. Nothing really impressive or interesting about it. And yet we have found that though we did not start out with a particular affinity for Uganda, we have grown in our love, knowledge, affection and prayer for that country as our child’s birth country and are looking forward to the time we will spend there when we go to pick up our child.

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